The Real Reason I Teach Women How to Dress With Confidence (Spoiler: It’s Not About Clothes)

For a while now, I’ve had this feeling — a tug I couldn’t shake.

Something was missing in how I was sharing this business with you. I couldn’t name it. Couldn’t quite grasp it. It was like an itch I couldn’t reach — and believe me, it’s been driving me a little nuts (fitting, considering how this wild week has gone 😉).

I’ve talked to business strategists. I’ve hashed it out with marketing folks and fellow creative entrepreneurs. But nothing ever clicked.

Until now. 💡

Enter my longtime friend and coach, Leah Farmer. We met through my husband before he was my husband, and she’s one of those people who helps you uncover stories you didn’t even realize were there. She’s like a flashlight in a dark attic — pulling out the cobwebbed stuff and helping you name what’s been holding you back.

And in one of our conversations, something BIG came up:

The real reason I care so deeply about helping women feel confident in their clothes.

Spoiler: it’s not just about clothes. It never was.

But I couldn’t see that clearly until Leah helped me connect the dots. Not because I was hiding anything — but because sometimes, you need someone else to help you see your own story straight.

Now that I see it, everything is different.

The Plot Twist That Started It All

Fun fact: I moved to Denver in 2007 for a guy my grandma set me up with.

Yep. My grandma. 😂

Spoiler again: He’s not my husband. But that move? It changed the course of my life.

Leaving Arizona cracked something open in me. I was officially single in a new city, and shortly after that realization, I met my now-husband… on Yahoo Personals. Yes, Yahoo. Don’t judge — it was the early 2000s, and I had a Yahoo email address, okay? We were all just trying our best.

(Also: shoutout to my best friend who was visiting for my birthday and immediately said, “That’s the guy.” She wasn’t wrong.)

That chapter didn’t just bring me love. It brought me back to me.

I started therapy. I started unpacking my worth. And I started realizing — our value has nothing to do with how we look.

(Yes, I know — bold claim from someone who teaches style for a living.)

But here’s the thing: I don’t teach style so you can “look better.”

I teach it because it’s one of the fastest, most powerful tools I know to help you feel like yourself again.

That flicker you see in the mirror when an outfit just clicks? That’s not vanity. That’s recognition. And when women start to recognize themselves again — the results are magic.

Full Circle Moments (and Why I’ll Never Stop)

If you’ve made it this far — thank you. 💛

Life is busy. We’re all juggling a thousand things. So the fact that you’ve taken a few minutes to read this story? That means something.

Here’s what I know for sure after all these years:

The best part of what I do — the part that lights me up every single time — is watching something click for a woman.

When she steps into an outfit that makes her feel like herself again. When she finally sees what was there all along. When she realizes the problem was never her body — it was the clothes.

Those moments? That’s why I’m here.

I did it for years in the classroom. And now I do it in closets, in group chats, and on Zoom calls — helping women reconnect with themselves in the least expected place: their wardrobe.

Let me be clear: I’m not here to just make you look “cute.”

I’m here to remind you of who you really are. To show you that style is not reserved for the few — it’s for you, exactly as you are, right now.

Sure, having a personal stylist on call might sound fancy.

But having someone in your corner who teaches you how to use clothes as a daily confidence tool?

That’s not a luxury. That’s a lifeline.

So whether you’re just peeking into this world or fully along for the ride, know this:

I’m here for the lightbulb moments. Always.

Ready to uncover your confidence? Explore Style School and join the community of women rediscovering themselves — one outfit at a time.